Many women face sexual problems at some point in their lives. The Sexual Advice Association believes the figure is around 50 per cent of women, and as they get older, the likelihood of an issue arising only grows. These difficulties can cause a great strain on relationships and, therefore, it is important to have an understanding of the potential challenges faced in the bedroom before trying to dispel them. What’s more, because there are both physical and psychological factors behind sexual problems, having an awareness of the potential causes may help you overcome them.
Remember that discussing these issues with your partner is advisable. They will be much more accepting if they are aware there is a problem, which should prevent any grievances developing from keeping these things bottled up.
Low sex drive
Having a low sex drive or lacking desire in the bedroom will affects a large number of women at some point in their life, if only to a small degree. Libido can be impacted a range of external influences, such as a job causing stress, lethargy or pregnancy. However, for some women, it can be something much more long-term, which may cause greater problems.
Both physical and psychological factors can impact sex drive, which makes each case very unique. Women who are suffering from diabetes, depression, relationship issues and hormone disorders may have a low libido. Drinking alcohol excessively or using drugs can also have an impact. Meanwhile, women who have experienced traumatic sexual experiences previously can also find their sex drive is diminished.
The causes of a low libido can be more scientific, however, as it can correlate with a drop in women’s testosterone levels. Although associated more with men, women do produce testosterone from their ovaries and adrenal glands, and if these have been removed or are not working properly, sex drive can be affected.
Reaching a climax
While for men reaching a climax during sex is relatively straightforward, it can be much more elusive for women, with some never having experienced an orgasm. Other women may have been able to come in the past, but aren’t aware of that. Although climaxing may not be a prerequisite for women to enjoy sex, failing to reach a climax may represent a big problem in the bedroom, leaving them unsatisfied and frustrated. It can affect partners too, making them feel inadequate.
Not being relaxed enough in the bedroom to let go or lacking knowledge about sex can have an impact on the potential to come, while insufficient stimulation, mood disorders and relationship problems can also have an effect. Overcoming this sort of problem can be as easy as better communication with a partner to ensure all the right spots are reached, however, it could require psychosexual therapy to explore the causes in greater depth.
Pain experienced when having sex can be very problematic to women, having an understandable impact on the desire to have sex. It can have a number of causes. For example, dyspareunia may arise following the menopause, leading to a lower oestrogen level and a dry feeling in the vagina. Vaginismus is a potentially very upsetting and distressing condition when the muscles in and around the vagina spasm, which can render sex impossible. This can be caused by psychological issues such as associating sex with pain deeming it morally ‘wrong’. Past vaginal trauma, relationship problems and a fear of pregnancy can also all have an effect.
Both these conditions can, however, be treated. For example, there are creams that can help with dyspareunia and sex education, counseling and vaginal trainers may resolve vaginismus.